What is the Velora Luxe Bullet vibrator? Sex toy retailer Velora’s Place sent me their Luxe Bullet to review. It’s a rechargeable vibrator made of silicone and plastic. Like other bullets, it’s on the smaller side of the vibrator spectrum (3.15″ long by 0.8″ wide). It’s currently being sold for $20.99. Things I like about […]

What is the OhMiBod Esca 2? The sex toy company OhMiBod was one of the original pioneers of remotely-controllable toys, and they still make great ones to this day. The one I’m reviewing today is the Esca 2, a G-spot vibrator designed to be “worn” vaginally. Via the OhMiBod app, this toy can be controlled […]

Y’all know that I love me some sexual science – so when sex doll company YourDoll reached out about a sponsored post, I knew immediately that I wanted to do a scientific deep-dive on sex dolls! Turns out there’s a surprising amount of scholarship on the subject – here are 3 interesting facts I discovered, […]

Of all the unanswered questions in human sexuality, perhaps the one that puzzles me most is “Where do kinks and fetishes come from?” There are so many different explanations out there – several of which are scientifically supported – that it’s hard to come up with a unifying theory on the subject. Maybe our horny […]

What is the Lovense Velvo? Lovense, makers of great long-distance sex toys, recently added the Velvo to their lineup. It’s a rabbit vibrator, a.k.a. a dual-stimulation vibrator, meaning that it targets two different erogenous zones at once – in this case, the clitoris and the G-spot. The external arm vibrates against your clit, while the […]

February 2nd, 2026 Wore this out to dinner with my wife, mb. My hair is chaotic because I was still a bit sad about a hard conversation I’d had to have with a friend a couple days before this, but mb took good care of me! Anyone remember this old Dildorks logo, drawn by Amy/Starboots? […]

April 8th, 2026 So I bought a red leather motorcycle jacket. Like so many of my best decisions, my wife had to talk me into it. An email showed up in my inbox declaring that a bunch of Danier Leather stuff was on sale, including their classic motorcycle jacket in “radiant red.” I already have […]

I have had a lot of phone sex in my life. Like, a lot. At this point it’s quite possible I’ve had phone sex more times than I’ve had in-person sex. Being in a long-distance relationship for over 7 years will do that to a person! (Or at least, to an aurally-inclined person like myself…) […]

I’ve got rope on the brain today. Maybe it’s because this world is noisier and more chaotic than ever, but I’m craving the peace and quiet of a good rope session, whether I’m the one being tied up or the one doing the tying. It’s a beautiful kinky art form with a rich history. Here’s […]

What is the Lelo Switch? A few readers were curious about the Switch when I listed it as one of my favorite toys of 2025, despite it being far from perfect – so I thought I’d review it in full today! Naming it the Switch was an interesting choice, given that it was released the same […]

What is the Lovense Exomoon? Reviewing a lipstick-shaped pressure-wave toy earlier this week made me realize – I’ve never reviewed the lipstick-shaped Lovense Exomoon vibe, even though it’s one of my favorite clitoral vibrators released in the last decade! As far as Lovense toys go, this one is pretty simple. It’s basically just your standard […]

There’s perpetually a firestorm of discourse about porn – whether it’s good or bad, realistic or unrealistic, helpful inspiration or misguided misinformation. Personally I think porn can teach us a lot, but people often take the wrong lessons from it. So what can you actually learn from porn, and what can’t you? Here are my […]

“What the fuck is this huge box?!??!?” That’s what I shouted when the Ppunson 36-lb. realistic male torso sex doll arrived at my apartment. (Phew, his name is a mouthful. Just like his dick.) You see, my email inbox can be a chaotic place, and I hadn’t realized Ppunson had decided to move ahead with […]

What is the BeMoreKinky app? Available for both iOS and Android, the BeMoreKinky app is designed by and for kinky couples. It’s meant to be a hub for sexual communication between you and your partner, via features like BDSM quizzes, scene planners, end-to-end encrypted chat, guided intimacy exercises, a habit tracker, and a punishment wheel. […]

What is the Chalovelo Lipsip? I am a femme, known for both wearing lipstick and writing about lipstick’s sexual applications – so it always catches my eye when sex toy companies make products that look like lipstick! I’ve tried a few vibrators along these lines, the best of which is the Lovense Exomoon – but […]

Dear foot fetishists: It is so rare that I get to address you directly, because the sex toy industry so rarely acknowledges your existence. Sure, they’ll throw you a bone every once in a while, in the form of a foot-shaped dildo or stroker – but if you’re anything like the foot fetishists in my dating […]

The weather outside is dull and grey, and it has me thinking about potential trips to far-flung locales – for lounging on the beach and sipping daiquiris over a good book, sure, but also for sexy adventures with beloved beaux. Sex in a hotel bed (or even on an Airbnb pull-out couch) just hits different, […]

Call me a starry-eyed basic bitch if you must, but Valentine’s Day is one of my favorite holidays. I mean, you get to dress up in lovecore colors and celebrate the love in your life – and for a romantic femme like me, what could be better than that?! I know it’s been almost a […]

Now that I’ve written and recorded a new song every week for years at a time, I’ve gotten pretty good at making songs no matter where I am. While the vast majority of my songs over that time period have been created from start to finish at home, I’m something of a jetsetter these days […]

I adore the euphoric altered states that kink can produce, and one of my favorites in recent years is “doll-space,” the feeling I get when I pretend to be a sex doll. It’s a hot fantasy, being “used” by a partner who is (at least in-universe) wholly focused on their own pleasure. I also find […]

My first book, 101 Kinky Things Even You Can Do, has been out for over 5 years, but I still hear from people regularly that it’s changing their sex lives for the better! (And yes, I do still cry every time I receive one of these emails… What can I say; I’m a sentimental pervert who […]

Having your period sucks. This is known. I’ve been menstruating for over two decades and I still can’t believe it sometimes: You mean to tell me I’ll spend one week of every month bleeding from my genitals, hobbling around in horrible pain, and bursting into tears at the slightest provocation?! And I have to do this for at least […]

I first started wearing liquid eyeliner in the eighth grade. I tried it on when I dressed as Marilyn Monroe for Halloween one year and promptly fell in love. The problem is, liquid eyeliner is a fickle mistress. My initial go-to was by L’Oreal and would sting horribly any time it got into my eyes […]