_This essay discusses sexual violence._

It wasn’t rape. But it wasn’t consensual. It wasn’t violent. But I was crying and told him to stop. He wasn’t a rapist. I knew him. I wasn’t a victim.

I was at an overnight college debate tournament when I was raped and physically assaulted by a fellow debater. The next morning, I woke up in the hallway with no ID and no phone. Days later, no matter…