Apologies for the lack of recent activity. I’ve been having a lot of fun doing sessions in London. Between those and visiting fancy restaurants it hasn’t left a lot of time for blogging. On Saturday I was fortunate enough to play with Mistress Miranda at her Bondage Laboratory. We snapped many photographs which I haven’t … Continue reading "Bondage Thoughts"

After doing a lot of family stuff over last couple of weeks, I’m finally back in London with a decadent weekend ahead. I’ve been reading a lot of bondage fiction recently, so planning to lean into that kink over a couple of sessions. Should be an uncomfortably fun time. While I’m not planning on any … Continue reading "Back in the Big Smoke"

By now it seems that every fashion / lifestyle magazine has done some variation on the ‘Day with a Dominatrix’ article. Today it’s the turn of Australia’s Fashion Journal with this article featuring Vera Beaufort. I’m featuring it here because I think it’s one of the better examples of its kind. Less sensational and voyeuristic … Continue reading "An Afternoon with Vera"

My last post on the stress of submitting web forms on pro-domme websites was based on a true story. I’m off on vacation and had spent the last few weeks making contact with a couple of dommes I was interested in playing with. I will hasten to add that they were prompt in response, easy … Continue reading "On the Road"

What’s the most anxiety inducing part about meeting up with a new pro-domme? Is it finding her playspace the first time, using whatever set of hoops you have to jump through for that? Is it the moment you first go to knock on her door? Or maybe the moment just after getting naked and just … Continue reading "First Time Jitters"

Starting the week with some visual loveliness here, courtesy of Audrey Fatale. The tones here are beautiful, all black leather, shiny chrome and naked flesh. Looks like a wonderful place to be. This was posted to Twitter by Audrey here.

An important lesson to learn early in any kinky journey is that no matter how hardcore you think your activity is, somewhere out there, somebody is doing a far more extreme version. I think learning that can temper the initial inclination to always keep pushing limits. It becomes more about finding the right limits for … Continue reading "Hardcore"

I hadn’t intended two posts on this topic, but here we are. Part of the reason is that Cosmopolitan also posted an article on it, and it contains just as much handwringing as they other articles I referenced in the last post. Apparently wrapping someone’s body in plastic wrap is a super advanced kink that … Continue reading "More Mummification"

The HBO show Euphoria is generating a bunch of coverage for its depictions of kink. It’s not a show I care to watch, so I’ve no idea how fair (or not) its coverage is. If the goal is controversy and debate, it’s certainly managed that. The latest kink it has drawn on is mummification. That … Continue reading "Euphoria"

What do we want for May Day? In short, to take another step towards freedom from all forms of oppression—towards what we call anarchy, by which we mean egalitarian relationships based in self-determination, solidarity, and mutual aid. Anarchists have been central to May Day since its origins as a labor holiday in 1886, when police in Chicago attempted to suppress anarchist labor organizers who…

I was amused to spot this vintage ad targeting doctors prescribing Valium (via reddit). Apparently relating well to women with domineering traits was a thing men needed medication for back in the 1960s. It’s a good job we live in (slightly) more enlightened times, or I’d be dosed up to my eyeballs. Although in my … Continue reading "Medication"

Here’s a moment captured. Something lovely to start the weekend. I originally stumbled across it via tumblr, but a bit of reverse image searching tells me this is Madame Lule, a Paris based Dominatrix and BDSM coach. She has any number of similarly striking photographs on her site, which is well worth exploring. If you’re … Continue reading "A Moment"

I’m always intrigued to discover new kinks I’ve not heard of before. After 20+ years on odd corners of the kinky internet this doesn’t happen too often, but occasionally I’m still surprised. For example, today I discovered Anesthesia is a kink. I obviously knew of medical fetishism and breathplay, but hadn’t realized that the drugs … Continue reading "Sleepytime"

I thought this was a pretty hot variation on a cage design. The outside is a standard cage, which is turned into a box with side panels, which in turn have slots for the shelves with limb/neck cut-outs. Combine it with the right bondage gear and it’d be a highly objectifying set-up. Just imagine the … Continue reading "Storage"

I’m continuing the maid theme from the last post with this image. As I’ve mentioned before, the French maid outfit isn’t really one of my kinks. However, if I was going to do it, this’d definitely be the way to go. I love how tight, shiny and restrictive this is. It’s both objectifying and aesthetically … Continue reading "Shiny Maid"

There’s been a lot of jokes about Kristi and Byron Noem in the last week. For anyone that missed it, Byron was outed for being into some mix of crossdressing / bimbo/ sissy fetish. Allegedly Kristi was also fucking her advisor Cory Lewandowski, so there’s also some potential for a cuckold kink in the mix … Continue reading "Nothing Good"

I found this Guardian article on the mapping of the clitoral nerves amazing. Unfortunately, I don’t mean that in a good way. The bits that amazed me were… The clitoris did not even make it into standard anatomy textbooks until the 20th century. In the 38th edition of Gray’s Anatomy in 1995 it was introduced … Continue reading "Medical Miracle"

Finishing up my series of scent themed posts with a bottom shot. Although I feel that part of the body is in a bit of a different category to the others featured. Armpits, genitals and (to a lesser extent) feet have an ongoing natural odor. Unless you’ve just got our the shower or have gone … Continue reading "A Last Sniff"

I’m continuing the scent theme from the last couple of posts. After previously featuring panties and shoes, we’ve moving up the body to that other great scent center – armpits. I think they’re more of a niche interested compared to the previous sources, but they definitely have their fans. I couldn’t decide which image to … Continue reading "Sniffing the Pits"

That last post has inspired me to do a series on a scent theme. I don’t think I’ve done one of those before. Scent is one of those things that held little interest for me when I started exploring kink. Now – for reasons I can’t explain – it has turned into a major kink. … Continue reading "More Sniffs"

A post by Bacchus over at ErosBlog made me laugh: His Yum For Her Panty-Scent Yucked her. It started with a woman dumping her boyfriend because he sniffed her panties. Gigi on TikTok responded with a video that expressed some incredulity at that reaction. Quoting a bit from the transcription Bacchus provided…. “Girl, you just … Continue reading "Sniff"

I don’t feature a lot of the classic (or cliched, depending on your point of view) French Maid femdom genre. There are exceptions, but it’s generally not my thing. It often leans into a humiliation dynamic that doesn’t typically resonate for me. Plus, I hate dusting and polishing. All that said, I have been really … Continue reading "Maid Service"

It’s that time of year again. Tax season. My friendly tax preparer (actually recommended to me by a domme!) sent me the details today. Ouch. Normally when I get screwed it’s a lot more fun. There’s something particularly annoying about it this year. It’s one thing if I can imagine it going towards healthcare or … Continue reading "A Right Rogering"

I’m not exactly sure what this is. Weird femdom macrophilia porn? Strange fashion shot? An artistic statement about the perverse and exploitative nature of men? Whatever it is, it made me laugh. The originally source is Lui Magazine all the way back in 1988. I sourced it via labstrakts tumblr which, after being dormant for … Continue reading "The Littlest Pervert"

Continuing the theme of AI imagery and kinky niches: Another group that has benefited is kinksters into medical fetish. Photographing those kind of scenes requires pretty specialized locations and equipment. AI might produce a fair number of wonky scalpels, but it makes creating fantasy backgrounds and furniture a lot easier. I’ve mentioned Velvet Lash before, … Continue reading "It won’t hurt a…

While AI continues to spread its slop across the internet, there are a few kinky groups who seem to be benefitting. One is those is the Macrophiles. That was definitely a niche kink for content in the past. AI has made it easy to create a lot of new material. For example, the shot below … Continue reading "Size Matters"

Chaining yourself to railings is a time honored protest technique. Femdom dating app Chyrpe gave it a new twist this week, using it as a marketing stunt on Camden Town High Street. They had a bunch of guys wear femdom themed t-shirts chain themselves to lampposts and railings. According to the app’s marketing officer… “Suddenly … Continue reading "Chyrpe"

For anyone thinking about building their own home playspace, the NY Times has an article with some inspiration in it. It’s more of a lifestyle piece than a how to guide, but it’s always nice to see a positive mainstream BDSM article, even if it does include the obligatory 50 shades reference. For NYC based … Continue reading "Home is where the Dungeon is"

Here’s a final (for the moment) trip back down memory lane. In this case it’s a double header. The site in question (despite the image logo) is OWK aka The Other World Kingdom. Possibly the only Femdom site with its own Wikipedia page. They launched in the late 90’s and have published a huge amount … Continue reading "Lydia and Owk"

I couldn’t do a series of posts from femdom in the 90’s and not feature anything from Leda. This catalogue cover page feature Julia Jameson, one of their most featured dommes and a notoriously hard spanker! Funny to think that this dates to before the first widely used internet browsers (Mosaic in ’93). Publishing a … Continue reading "Julia Jameson and Leda"